I do a lot of work with Imposter Syndrome – where we feel we don’t deserve the success that we’ve got right in front of us.  Everything feels like it’s a fluke or fake!  Every meeting you feel you’ll be busted and shamed for lying about your ‘skills’ The voice in your head says ‘Everyone else gets this except you!’  At it’s extreme we’re so concerned we might get it wrong, we agonize over everything.  We over-prepare for every possible question, running through every scenario of how we might be tackled, undermined, or outed as an imposter.  We prepare so much that we’re like robots and stumble in our delivery.  That just gives us more evidence that we’re imposters.  It’s completely exhausting, I know, I’ve got it. 

It’s a thing, there’s books on how to tackle it (some great ones – DM if you’re interested) and so many clients come to me that I know it’s real.  And I want to normalize it.  I’m not alone, you’re not alone – many of us feel this way.  It’s part of being human but it sure gets in the way of creating a life or career you actually want. 

Normalizing was a big part of helping me deal with it – realising when I checked the room that most of us felt this, helped – it stopped me from being in my head, in my fear, and I started seeing it in others and helping them instead.  Seeing it distracted my ‘over-thinking-mind’ and gave me purpose – to help the other guy!  In meetings, we were now comrades, not adversaries.   

And, what helped was looking at what was real – gathering evidence on what I actually did, looking at the results that were actually delivered, and hearing what the people who mattered really thought about me.  

It’s the difference between the FEELs and the REALs – both are important but when you’re trapped in the FEELs you sometimes need to focus on the REALs to get unstuck.  

I help you get the life or career you actually want.  Working with me you’ll get clear on what you really want, create safety around any fears blocking your way and we get there faster than you thought possible.  Follow the link in the bio for a totally free session with me when you’re ready to make that change you promised yourself.