When you’re getting close to something really important: launching your passion project or starting that side hustle then all kinds of fears show up.
Fears like ‘I can’t move on from my big corporate job, I’ll never earn enough money’. ‘I can’t set up on my own, I don’t know how’.
I want to make it super clear – this is totally normal and you’re totally normal. It’s normal to feel fear when you’re about to embark on a big change – this happens to all of us. That fear is there to help you and the work you have to do is to work out what it’s telling you, what’s real and then how you create safety around it.
So, what’s the fear telling you? It can be simple – fear of no regular income could be a fear of being vulnerable, or a fear of public failure (if income is a measure of your self-worth) or a fear of not being able to fulfill your commitments.
First, it’s important to talk it out (or better – write it out) because as you voice it then you realize that some of the fear is actually real (you have got bills to pay) and some of it’s completely in your head. You’ve got a fear orgy going on up there which you can break up when you list it out (apologies for planting that visual metaphor in your brain today).
When you see it listed out then you’re clear on what’s real and what’s not. Only at that point can you start to build safety around the real fears. It might be that you work out exactly what income you need (as opposed to what you previously earned) or what success looks like in your terms.
And that’s key – feel the fear, work out what it’s telling you and what’s real then work on how you can feel safer around the real stuff. Once you’ve created safety then moving closer towards you’re goal feels a whole lot easier – you’ve moved another roadblock out of the way and can get on with being and doing what you love.
In my work, I help clients get really clear on what they actually want and help them get there faster than they thought possible.